Climbing yourself : Unleash your confidence
People are born with no self doubt.
When we first wanted to stand up on our own foot (when we were so young) we tried to do it without help and it didn't work. Then we tried to do it with the help of our hands…uh it kind of worked, but not as expected…we are back on the ground. Then we tried it using the help of one of our parents. We were young, we knew nothing. When we wanted to do something we tried to do it, if we failed, we tried another approach. We didn't get depressed, thinking about our miserable lives saying "We can't do that", we just tried something else.
"People are born with no self doubt, if they fail they just try another approach" {tweet this}
One cloudy day, we tried to approach one of our problems/challenges as we used to do it since we were born, but someone came to us (a teacher, parent …etc) and said "you can't do this because…." And since then we began to doubt ourselves.
Successful people figure to go back to how they were originally created, they face odds, challenges, and strive to create a better future with no self doubt. They are equipped with enthusiasm and flawless adequacy.
"Successful people figure to go back to how they were originally created, they are equipped with enthusiasm and flawless adequacy" {tweet this}
Successful and effective people gain others' trust by having self confidence. People have reason (or think they have a reason) to believe and trust you if you truly believe in yourself. Hold the fear inside you, concentrate on your goals, objectives and strength, not on your weaknesses and uncertainties. Worth mentioning here is the other extreme of having self doubt, the people who act overconfident, actually they aren't. They are the ones most likely to have self doubt and they compensate for it with arrogance.
"The history of the world is full of men who rose to leadership, by sheer force of self-confidence, bravery and tenacity" Mahatma Gandhi
Too many people have learned to have self doubt either through inefficient education, work or family environment, they unjustifiably question their abilities. So, you have the choice to continue acting like this, unnecessarily questioning your abilities, damaging and preventing yourself from achieving what you can accomplish, just because you can't overcome the fear in you, simply because you can't climb yourself. Alternatively, you can go to the next step with self confidence.
You are in control of your behavior, your future is in your own hands.
"Those who are skilled at winning do not become afraid, thus the wise win before they fight, while ignorant fight to win" Zhuge liang
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4 comments:
as how intresting your point is, how i can tolerate this with the saying "Ra7em allah emre2en 3aref kadr nafseh", and how this not CONFLICT ?
Good point. There are multiple perspectives here.
If you looked to the saying above from the perspective of someone who is trying to excuse what he "can't do" then this really conflicts, and it's exactly the case with those who question their abilities. The point is, don't look at your weaknesses and feel bad, this is just wrong.
Another perspective is to look at the saying above from the perspective of someone who is trying to identify his weaknesses and FIGHT to change them. all of us has weaknesses, the kicker is how you deal with the, do you just cry and avoid them (first case), or FIGHT to change them, with the confidence that "YOU CAN", because everyone Can if he had the right perspective.
Another 3rd interesting perspective to look at the saying above is to look at it from the prospective of someone that know his abilities, and what he "CAN DO", instead of bothering with what he can't. This sometimes lead to “overconfidence” which I talked about in my article, which is really wrong, and proves self – doubt.
The deal here is how you look at problems/weaknesses... do you wait for them to get fixed, being disappointed, and knowing (unjustifiably) that you can't do something.
Or, do you go and face the problems, (knowing them), and fighting them, and walking on their dead bodies, equipped in your fight with Confidence.
To cut this short, I believe the saying above is about "Identifying your weaknesses" not about "how to deal with them". On the other hand my point is about how to deal with them "self - confidence". So, I believe there is no conflict here, identifying your problems doesn't prevent you from fighting them, actually, identifying them is a 1st step before fighting them.
I hope I got and then Tackled your point in the right way.
@adel khalel: there's no impossible as long as all the required is just time and effort, in other words as long as you've the resources to do this, i.e. you can build an OS, but you can't build an aircraft, I think this answered your question in a simple way :)
@hossam: you forgot another line:
Student: but sir, there are students like me in other international universites which make huge projects like those I am talking about, and they hold the same knowledge as mine.
Supervisor: you're Egyptian, you're donkey because I am donkey, 2eeeeeeee 2a333333 2eeeeeeeeee 2a3333333333 (donkey sound effect)
I found ur blog by coincidence :)
Anyway, nice post.. It reminded me with a quote by Henry Ford :: "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right"
It's all a matter of attitude..
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